• A New Earth,  jack,  Oprah,  Reality tv

    Too Desperate

    What’s Jack up to? He’s finally on his way to the groomer for a much needed haircut. Let’s hope he’s looking a lot better when I see him again and they don’t call me early to pick up my problem dog. I have to say I’m a little nervous about this new place we’re trying. They seem a little over the top with calling the dogs “kids” and all. What up with that? Wierd-o’s or just me?
    Thanks so much to all of you who checked out Megan’s interview yesterday. If you missed it please check it out. Megan is awesome!

    Today I was going to get all philosophical and talk about A New Earth. I’m still on the New Earth wagon and liking it although I’m behind, but I’m enjoying all this study of the ego and getting over it stuff. It’s interesting. A good thought I got from the download of the chapter 2 discussion was, “what you react to in another you strengthen in yourself.” Hmm… Let’s just think about that a bit shall we?
    Now the total opposite of suppressing the ego was last night’s Not So Real Housewives of NYC. It was EGO to the MAX! Alex, Simon, Ramona the whole thing was a mess. Talk about desperation and dying for acceptance. It was just S-A-D. Then the mad hatter dinner party with Simon as the creepy party crasher? Crazy.
    And the Topper of the Night for me was LuAnn pulling rank and not wanting to be introduced to “the help” by her first name and comparing “the help” to children. UGH. Just when I didn’t think it could get any worse. It did. Eek. Next week is the season Finale. Awww…. so soon?

    Best,

    Kwana

  • interviews,  jack,  Megan Frampton,  writers,  writing

    Plotting By The Seat Of Your Pants

    What’s Jack up to? He’s mad because the DH put a new lock on the laundry room door so he can’t get in there and rifle though the clean towels. Sorry Dude. You must find some new trouble to get into today.

    This weekend I’m excited to be attending the New England Chapter of Romance Writer’s of America’s Annual Conference. On top of getting to sit down for first time face to face with my fab agent I’ll get to attend workshops with some great authors which is always pretty inspiring.

    One of the inspiring authors giving a workshop this year is my own PIC (partner in crime) and author of the regency historical, A Singular Lady, Megan Frampton. Megan will be doing a workshop called Plotting by the Seat of Your Pants which I got to hear her do recently for our local New York Chapter. Listening to this workshop caused me to bug Megan for a quickie interview on plotting. Enjoy.

    Hi Megan. Thanks for doing this interview. It’ll be quick and painless. I promise.

    1. Tell me a little about your workshop and what made you decide to put this type of workshop together?

    In the course of attending various writers’ conferences, I realized—perhaps not a rocket scientist moment on my part—that there were very few workshops for pantsers, probably because of our seat of the pants style. As I tried to figure out how to write a story, and not just pretty words strung together, I came up with some ideas to ask myself in the course of writing that don’t involve “plot,” “outline” or “stay true to the synopsis.”

    [And I gotta give props to my faux critique partner, Carolyn Jewel, who worked on the outline with me. Some day we will present this workshop together, but meanwhile, buy Carolyn’s Book, My Wicked Enemy, when it comes out this summer. End of commercial.]

    2. When you said, ” a writer has to decide if they really are a Pantser and not a plotter looking to get out of the work,” it made me laugh and made me think. Can you tell me what that really means? How can a writer tell if they really are a true Pantser or a Plotter?

    I think true pantsers feel freest to write—and write best—when when they have only a vague story trajectory in mind. Wannabe pantsers work well with structure, but might not want to put in the advance work that pantsers do on the fly. Either way, it’s work that has to get done; it’s just a difference in when you do it.

    3. Another great point you make in your workshop deals with the fact that romances always have the happily ever after and you talk about how NOT to get the character together for 400 pages. Can you talk about that concept?

    Real-life romances are boring: You meet, you have a first date, it goes well, you have another one, and so on until you’re I-do-ing. Great for life, not so great for a fantastic story. The whole point, the big question the reader should be asking herself through the course of reading is not ‘when will they I do?’ but ‘how is the author possibly going to get these two together?’ THAT’s why you read. In a romance, the HEA is a foregone conclusion; it’s your job as a writer to make it less foregone, at least in the reader’s mind.

    4. You also bring up the clothes line approach. Can you tell me a bit about that and how it helps the Pantser?

    For me, I can write really pretty words (see above) but the scenes they’re in might not have much storyline significance. In order to make it to the final edit, you should ask yourself if the story can exist without that scene. If it can, rip it out, no matter how pretty your words are. If it can’t, keep it, and that becomes one of your clothesline items: You move from sock to sock (event to event) until you reach the end of the pole (no double entendre intended, btw). Each sock is more crucial as you advance, and you can work from one point to the next without having to know the whole wash in advance.

    5. How can a Pantser feel confidant when they type THE END that they really are at the end with all the loose ends tied up neatly and completely.

    Oh, for goodness’ sake, ask me a hard question, why don’t you! I have no idea. I know I feel confident that it’s done because I am COMPLETELY AND TOTALLY OVER IT, at least until I pull it out and edit it. I guess when your characters are smooching you are at the end, hopefully with ends tied. As you re-read, keep a notebook and make note of threads of plot you may or may not have tied up. Chances are you did, since your unconscious helps you, but if you didn’t, you can work it into your edit.

    Ha! Don’t get mad at me. I was hoping for something divine. Humph! I guess we’ll have to keep relying on each other. Ah-hem. Ok. Back to interview mode.

    6. Finally, please tell us what’s next for you.

    I’ll be working on a super-sexy high-concept novella called “Fortune’s Lady” (although I might name it My Lady’s Pleasure), and then the next book in my Road series, Road to Desire. I am searching for a new agent, and am committed, for the time being, to historical, although I would love to write another contemporary (I did one that didn’t sell—yet—called Mothering Heights which is being shopped around).

    Thanks for doing this PIC! See you in New England! Well, there and on the bus going there:)

    About Megan:
    Megan majored in English literature at Barnard College with a double minor in political science and religion. She worked in the music industry for 15 years, editing and writing music reviews for a music industry trade magazine. Eventually, she became the Editor-in-Chief and went on to develop music industry conference programs.

    Megan married one of her former interns and lives in Brooklyn, NY, with him and her son. Now that she stays at home, Megan has returned to reading — and writing — the fiction that was her first love. She is a member and was President of the Beau Monde (2004-2005), the Regency chapter of the Romance Writers of America, and a member of the NYC chapter of the RWA as well. Find out more about Megan here.

    Best,
    Kwana

  • blogs,  jack,  thanks,  writing

    Don’t be a Troll

    What’s Jack up to? Whew. Wild boy is fine and happy for a few hours of quiet on this Monday morning.

    This weekend was my monthly RWA/NYC local chapter meeting and we were treated to an exceptional talk on self promotion and blogging by Sarah from Smart Bitches Who Love Trashy Books (that would be us ya’ll!) and Ron Hogan from Media Bistro’s Galley Cat.


    Thanks to Sarah and Ron for being so candid on with their views and generous with their advice for the newbies of the group. Love the bit about not being a Troll. You know someone who goes around saying inflammatory things just to stir up trouble. Don’t you just hate people like that? They are not as cute as these litte guys to the right. If I ever get Trollish and it’s not about reality TV, feel free to give me a verbal smack-down.

    I walked away from the talk feeling like I was a least doing some things right with my little blog here by being my true self and sharing my thoughts on: Writing, TV, Knitting and life. Being a pre-pubbed author this is really a way to show my voice and get some words on a page every day even when my WIP is not flowing like I’d like. And let’s face it, it’s a bit therapeutic. Even if you’re not really listening I like to think you are!

    This blogger thanks you for tuning in.

    Best,

    Kwana

  • jack,  tagged

    It’s A Tag Fest!

    What’s Jack up to? The wild boy is getting himself in trouble again by frolicking his dirty butt in my clean laundry. Jack!

    So I was just tagged (see below) then I tagged Patricia and at the same time she was tagging me. And we call each other friends? Crazy huh? Not to be a wimp I’m going for it. 2 tags in a row then I am done. You are all probably now bored stiff with me, but here I go with the great A to Z tag:

    A. Attached or Single – Attached since the 80’s to my DH. Ha and they said it wouldn’t last. We showed them, Hon!

    B. Best Friend – I’m a lucky girl with lots of wonderful folks in my life, but I’ll name a few there’s: Patricia, and Karli and Ceska and my PIC, Megan. I could go on. I told you I was lucky!
    C. Cake or Pie –Hmm. Tough one. Depends on the cake or the pie.
    D. Day of Choice – Knit Wednesday
    E. Essential Item – Elizabeth Arden’s 8 Hour Cream
    F. Favorite Color -Black. Really, Is there another color for clothes?

    G. Gummy Bears or Worms – Gummy Bears
    H. Hometown -I’m a New York City girl

    I. Indulgence – Nightly Bubble Bath
    J. January or July – Neither. June is the month for me then October
    K. Kids – 2. Teen Twins a dear daughter and dear son
    L. Life isn’t complete without – LOVE
    M. Marriage date– Oct 7
    N. Number of brothers and sisters -3 Brothers
    O. Oranges or Apples – Green Apples
    P. Phobias – Fears – Both, but know they are a terrible waste of time
    Q. Quote – “I can’t think about this now. I’ll go crazy if I do. I’ll think about it tomorrow.” quick- who said it?
    R. Reason to smile –Just look around!
    S. Season of Choice – Fall. You can wear all that lovely black.
    T. Tag 3 – I’ll stop here so as not to get smacked. If you’d like to play just give a shout and have at it!
    U. Unknown fact about me – Oh Gawd! What’s not known about me after all these tags?
    V. Vegetable – Broccoli Baby
    W. Worst Habit – I’ll steal from Patricia and say: saying “yes” when I clearly should say “no!”
    X. X-ray or Ultrasound – I’ll steal from Patricia here too since I had the same experience: Ultrasound of twins! Eek!
    Y. Your Fave Food – yesterday was pasta, but today I’m so craving lobster.
    Z. Zodiac – Gemini baby!

    cool pic fom google

    Best,

    Kwana
  • jack,  Knitting,  survivor,  tagged

    Blame Kristen

    What’s Jack up to? Here he is (still needing a haircut) jumping in on me taking a picture of this cool ribbon scarf I finished. Jack this is not your shot. Scoot. He has the nerve to try and pose too! Ugh, I’ve created a monster with bad hair.

    I’m starting on another scarf for someone special (shhh…) in the same stitch. As you can tell I really like this drop stitch. It’s not hard and looks so pretty. I’m loving this slightly ribboned yarn with a bit of mohair I found. It’s sturdy, but delicate.


    So I’ve been tagged again. This time by Kristen and she looks so sweet. Hmm…

    You’re feeling: Tired and a little anxious

    To your left: Books, a table lamp, way too many papers

    On your mind: Oh, just everything. My kids mostly, my DH, my WIP, my bills, too much.

    Last meal included: Totally top chef- not: Meatloaf, Kraft Mac and cheese and string beans, HA!

    You sometimes find it hard to: Chill out.

    The weather: raining and still too cold!

    Something you have a collection of: Books, Magazines, yarn

    A smell that cheers you up: lavender, spring rain, cut grass

    A smell that can ruin your mood: Mint. I can’t stand it!

    How long since you last shaved: Too long, I’m a bit over due.

    The current state of your hair: Ugh. Dry and choppy. Must get it done for NEC.

    The largest item on your desk/workspace (not computer): some special yellow fake flowers that will make it to their destination one day

    Your skill with chopsticks: so-so

    Which section you head for first in a bookstore: center tables then Romance

    Something you’re craving: always Pasta.

    Your general thoughts on the presidential race: Scroll down a bit and you’ll see then make up your own mind.

    How many times have you been hospitalized this year: More than I’d like.

    Favorite place to go for a quiet moment: Movies. Not quiet but a great escape for me.

    You’ve always secretly thought you’d be a good: Actress.

    Something that freaks you out a little: Gum on the side of a plate.

    Something you’ve eaten too much of lately: Pasta. See above.

    You have never: Jumped out of a plane

    You never want to: Jump out of a plane

    People I’m tagging: Elizabeth, Mommy The Robot, Patricia and Eileen again!

    Oh, Did any one watch Survivor? Erik totally sold Ami out. She really tried to fight it out and I thought she had something there but it was a no go. There was no way Ozzy was letting go of his most adoring fan. So funny!

    And… on Make Me A Supermodel Holly Wins!!! Yay! I’m so glad she beat out those way too smug boys (Ronnie). Ha! This show actually grew on me. Who knew?

    Ok, now I’m gone. Smiles! Happy Friday.

    Best,

    Kwana

  • ANTM,  jack,  Reality tv,  Top Chef

    Top Fool I am

    What’s Jack up to? He’s just being Jack. Lately he’s been hiding out in the hall closet with the shoes and boots. I keep forgetting and closing the door on him all the way. Sorry, Jack.

    It was quite a shocker on America’s Next Top Model last night, but first off what is up with Lauren and the crazy outbursts? That girl is needing a muzzle.

    I have to give props this week to Stacy Ann for being smart with the good Sprint shout out and getting premium camera time and good for her winning the challenge. Go Stacy Anne! I also have to say I wasn’t in love with the photos this week and in a true shocker, well, not so much. Claire was ousted. I thought it would have been and should have been Lauren. Oh well.

    Buh-Bye Claire. No more CoverGirl of the week for you.

    Now for Top Chef. Hooray!!!

    This week’s quickfire was with guest Daniel Boulud and was all about technique and making a beautiful vegetable plate. Uh-oh all you butter fingers and as for you Richard and Ryan (who I suspect was fired) Daniel said his past experiences with them would not effect him. We’ll see…


    Sidebar: How many hats did Spike bring? Does he secretly have something going on with Ricky from Project Runway?

    Quickfire judging Dale was impressive and scary too.
    Richard’s a suck up. Surprise. Wipe your nose.
    Spike was nice, despite the hat Hmm….


    The winner is….. Scary Dale with the manic eyes and full zipper velour jogging jacket. Yay! He’ll be around another week.

    Now the elimination challenge. A dinner inspired by your favorite movie. Sounds like a fun dress- party. Wouldn’t it be great to do that with Pride and Prejudice, or Rocky Horror or Mahogany all could have good food and fun clothes. What movie would you choose?




    Richard, Dale and Andrew are doing Willy Wonka. Andrew no acting, please. This is not Mars 2112. Just stop. Tom will not stand for it. Back in the kitchen Richard’s smoker breaks. I’m so happy. I’m mean, right?

    Judges Verdict- Impressive


    Did Spike Say Good Morning Vietnam? What? Not a favorite movie of mine and you can’t really dress to it, but make it good Manuel, please don’t pull out an accent or I may have to smack you.

    Verdict- Judges not impressed.

    Jen and Nikki- Il Postino- Good Choice but Nikki need to chill with the Italian. The judges are going to get tired of her with that.

    Verdict- Tom “Good not great.” I think they’ll they’ll take that.



    Zoi and Antonia- Talk to Her good too. Spanish film. good stuff to work with.

    Verdict- Daniel not happy. Uh-oh, Zoi.



    Mark and Ryan to ding bats with no knowledge of cinema decided on the Christmas story. Hmm…

    Verdict-Hey Ted liked it. Why am I surprised? Ryan just does not impress me.



    Lisa and Stephanie get the 6th course and decide to do beef? Who wants beef for a 6th course? Who? Unless it’s a 6 am after the club course. Although I’ll agree that Top Secret is a super Funny movie and probably Val Kilmer’s best. At least they added apples so it’s not all savory.

    Verdict-Daniel- Yum.

    The winners are announced and there are man hugs all around even with the women. The final winner is…Fauxhawk Richard. Man! And even without a smoker. Nobodies happy. Ugh!

    Losers walk on in. Spike has on another fedora! Mustard yellow. Ugh again! Manuel you are with a fedora wearing mess. Get a backbone, man.
    Antonia and Zoi look like they want to cry. Zoi is whining too much in the Gladroom. I’m afraid she may go. Tick Tock….

    Commercial over. Wow! I was fooled again. Zoi is safe despite the whining. Fedora is in and Manuel is out. Buh-Bye, Manuel.

    It was fun.

    Best,
    Kwana

  • jack,  life,  Reality tv,  writing

    Stop the world I want to get off

    What’s Jack up to? Sweetie is jumping at the window barking at all the activity on this block on this not quite spring day.

    Last night one of the scariest and most entertaining characters came back to prime time TV with Gordon Ramsay’s Hell’s Kitchen coming back on. Shout out to Louisa! Are you smiling today?
    I watched some, but have to check out the DVR for the rest since I was interrupted by the teens. But what a wacky bunch of “chefs” they have. I mean truly strange characters. There is hardly a normal person in the bunch and it makes me wonder why they went so over the top this season. I have to say I was Happy to see the one mohawk of the bunch was real and not faux. Now as to the talent. I’m not sure.

    As for the title of my post today… I’d really like to be like the, not a housewife at all, Bethany (in the dots here) of the NOT so Real Housewives of NYC and be able to pack a bag to Miami because I’m upset and stressed with life. Let me tell you baby I’d be on that plane right about now. Ugh!

    But guess what? I am a real housewife. With kids and a husband and a dog and a work I need to do and there are wheels that turn because I’m turning them! So I can’t do that.
    They all make me crazy. The only one I can half tolerate is Jill (she’s in the black on the right).

    Oh well, since I can’t hop on a plane I’m going to do my next best thing and escape to my weekly knitting group then come back home and get to writing and my very real life as a Housewife of NYC.

    Best,
    Kwana

  • jack,  Reality tv,  The Bachelor,  writing

    Nothing says I love you like spray tan and a treadmill

    What’s Jack up to? The little stinker got into one of the twin’s backpacks and got to some candy so he’s not into eating this morning. Feeling blah. Serves you right, Jack.

    I missed quite a bit of Dancing With The…Stars? last night so I’ll have to check out the recap. I did get to see Jason and Kristi and thought they were both great. I’m thinking they maybe the final two or at least they should be.
    The Bachelor was so funny last night. First off, how sad are the one on one dates that are like a one-way tickets to nowhere? You have to pack your bags and if you don’t get a rose then and there you’re left like an unwanted dog taken for a “ride”. Horrible. Talk about pressure. It had one girl start a date on the red carpet and end it in a hot tub in order to insure that rose. Classy, huh?

    I had to laugh out loud when crazy Shayne jumped up and down on the bed with glee when finding out one of the other girls had secret full blown spray tan machine. The girl was so happy that she announced “if she had a treadmill she’d be in heaven”. Gag me please!!!


    Then Marshana got her lip busted in a way too physical game of Rugby. You’d think they were on Survivor. So there she is bleeding and all the girls are mad at her for bleeding and getting Matt’s attention.

    Can someone tell me why they were looking at Matt’s house like it was really his house? Um, girl’s don’t you know it’s rented just like yours right? I’m worried.


    Oh well, enough of these girls. Off to write and embrace my VOICE. Sort of like Sanjaya, without a care as to what anyone thinks of me. Hopefully it will be a productive day that will end with tired fingers from all my typing.

    Best,

    Kwana

  • art,  jack,  writing

    Finding Your Voice

    What’s Jack up to? The wild boy is just being Jack and running around like crazy this morning. Jack you have to calm down. I’ve got lots of work to to today.

    So it was a busy weekend with my DD’s dance recital which was wonderful BTW. Thanks for all the kind comments and well wishes. She was beautiful and oh so sharp and professional. I was proud.

    We decided to sleep in on Sunday since Saturday was such a late night, but come Sunday morning, bright and early, I was tossing and turning, my mind racing with anxiety. I was so tired and all I wanted to do was rest, but rest wouldn’t come. Something was bothering me and it was my current work in progress.

    Right now I’m trying hard to write something that will be a kind of break out piece for me so I’m playing with lots of different ideas. And for the most recent one, I just keep getting stuck. Stuck, stuck, STUCK. I keep seeing things unfold so clearly in my head, but not being able to put words to the images.

    So with rest not happening, I got up left my DH and went to my other love, my lap top.

    Bleary eyed (and out of coffee, yikes) I opened my document, yet again, and started to re-read the same old lines. I was in the scenes, but they just didn’t have that oomph that they had in my head. I was detached.

    Then suddenly after days and days of struggling I knew exactly what the problem was. I wasn’t writing from my natural point of view. Although I knew the characters and saw them clearly, I didn’t know the narrator of the story. It didn’t have my VOICE.

    I was like some of the poor kids on American Idol when they pick the wrong songs. They know the lyrics, but the voice doesn’t match. Only when they can make it their own does it really work and they get the votes they need to make it to the next week.

    So, I renamed the document and started rewriting, changing the POV entirely. And once I did that a lot of my fears and anxiety started to melt away. A little. I’m a writer. Fear never really goes away.
    I was smiling and feeling good. Suddenly I was there with my characters, confident that what I was saying was exactly what they would want me to be saying. That odd knot I had was starting to unravel and I could sing again!

    For all you writers, artists or for whatever your field is, how do you or did you find your voice or are you still struggling to find that illusive thing called “VOICE”?

    Best,
    Kwana

  • dance,  DD,  jack,  teens

    Dancing With Myself

    What’s Jack up to? The happy dog is jumping and bouncing way to much for me on this Saturday morning. Give me a little time to sleep in please, Jack.

    Tonight’s my family and I will be attending my DD’s annual modern dance recital. This will be the the 10th year that we have come to some such sort if thing.

    And I’m sure that even though she’s much taller, way shapelier and a bonafide dagger shooting teen, I’ll look on that stage tonight and for a moment I’ll see glimpses of that four year old that used to look for only me in the audience and flash me a mega-watt smile. What mother can help it?
    Yep, that’s her on pointe and she’s amazing at modern (tonight’s concert and her speciality) and hip hop too. The girl’s got talent! So join me in a Bravo for the DD in honor of her show tonight. Happy weekend!

    Best,

    Kwana